Well, in my last post, I said I was going to try to suggest something different. I would try to get her to do something she really would hate, and then get her to do something that isn't so bad but that would be better than usual. Well, it didn't work out at all. She acted like she simply couldn't understand what I was asking. What exactly are you suggesting? Then: why, exactly, do you want to have oral $ex? Why would you suggest that? I am not sure if she was playing dumb to avoid saying no, or if she really is that naive. In the end, we did have sex, but she almost passed out asleep before we were done. Wonderful.
It's experiences like these that make me think there is no hope. Making love to her is awful because she hates doing it. I can make a child behave by using a punishment; the kid doesn't have to like it, but he will do it because the consequences are awful. I can't make my wife want to do something, especially have sex. I can threaten to leave her, which might change her behavior, but again: will it be pleasant if she feels like she has to do it?
I will suggest counseling eventually, but I am pretty skeptical. How do you change how you feel about someone? Will she actually make an effort, or just half-a$$ it like she does now?
I am pretty sure she doesn't want to leave me, but why does she choose to stay and live like this?
Dude, get counseling, if you haven't already! DO IT! STOP TALKING ABOUT IT AND JUST DO IT! It's not about making her do something that she doesn't want to do, but perhaps a third party can help her understand how she is hurting you emotionally, and that it's not just a physical thing for you. I'm telling you, hints aren't gonna work for this. You have to be very frank and upfront and have her full attention away from tv's, computers, kids, any sort of stress. You need to look her in the face and tell her that this is a SERIOUS problem that is causing you intense emotional pain! Tell her how rejected and unloved you feel. If that doesn't get through to her, take her butt to counseling!!!!! DON'T WAIT until you hate her guts! Just get it done!
ReplyDeleteAnother approach, you should shake things up a little different. Get a fresh hair cut, come home and shower, shave and get dressed and looking smoking hot and LEAVE! GO HAVE FUN! Don't cheat on her, but go enjoy yourself with some of the fellas and have a few drinks, play some pool, something. Don't come home until later than normal (whatever that would be). Don't say anything. The next weekend, do the same thing, but always look HOT! :-) I don't remember if I suggested this before. For some reason, I don't get updates to the blog automatically (bummer).
I might just try your idea, Miss Wifey. I am not sure if it is physically possible for me to look "smoking hot," or even "uncomfortably warm," but I can try.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, if you are not getting updates, you can try "following" the blog. I've never it done it myself, but I think you will get an e-mail when I post stuff or someone responds to your comments.